Thursday, April 02, 2009

Interview on Life Coaching for Doctors & Medical Marriages: Part II

As I mentioned on my last post, I was interviewed by a Doctor's spouse name Bea to find out more about Life Coaching for Doctors and how a life coach can help medical marraiges as well. Here's Bea's bio again:

Bea's blog, Finding Equanimity, is about medical marriages and relationships. She writes about ways to find evenness of mind (equanimity) despite the myriad of stresses that a medical marriage can encounter. Bea started her blog because she wanted to chronicle her research on medical relationships and tips that have helped her (and others) along the way. As a result of her research, Bea found my site, and she interviewed me to learn more about life coaches for doctors and the type of advice I give to doctors and their families.

Part II of the interview questions:

4) What seems to be the top worry of a doctor?
(Money, family stress, business, malpractice suits?)

Well, I hear it all. Money, Stress which is affecting their own health, relationship issues, worrying about malpractice suits – all of these are concerns that doctors have. I also hear a lot about substance abuse – which I will tend to refer them to another professional if this is the case.
I can address any of these top worries (money, stress, relationships, business, etc), simply by coaching them around the principles of the Laws of Attraction. It’s a powerful coaching tool that works with all of my clients. However, it takes some time to shift their Mind Set since they have been thinking in a certain negative pattern for a long time. But, it’s just like anything … with practice, change will occur.

5) What in your sessions seems to help doctors the most?

The Law of Attraction coaching and the exercises I give them to help them identify what they really want to attract into their life. Also, a willingness on their part to open their minds and try new methods/approaches that will help them to be more centered, feel more joy and improve all areas of their life.

Another thing that is extremely helpful is the consistent support that they get on a monthly basis. After all, we can all get “thrown off track” every once and a while. But if you have a professional resource that can help you to stay on track and maintain that positive attitude on a regular basis, then you are on your way to lasting and permanent changes that will enrich your life forever.

Once my clients get that they actually do have the power to change their current reality (which I teach them how to do), they feel more empowered and see positive results in their life.

6) What piece of advice would you give to a non-physician spouse in a medical marriage?

You need to keep a Mind Set that is aligned with the type of relationship and life that you really want to have with your spouse. I get more spouses or fiancées calling me about my Life Coaching than the actual Doctors themselves due to the unique challenges that arise when being married to a Doctor & the Medical profession! Hire a Life Coach to help you to manifest the life you want with the love of your life who happens to be a Doctor.

All of us create our own reality by the type of thoughts & feelings we have. The key is in shifting those thoughts & feelings to ones that empower us and match our ultimate desire to be happier in our lives.

To find out more about my Coaching Services, contact me via e-mail at Maria@MariaLesetz.com . You can also visit my website at http://www.lovinlifenow.com/ and my websites specifically created for Doctors & their families at http://www.invinciblemd.com/ & http://www.lifecoachfordoctors.com/ .

Warmly,
Maria C. Lesetz
Certified Life Coach for Doctors & their spouses

Interview on Life Coaching for Doctors & Medical Marriages: Part I

Ever since I became a Certified Life Coach for Doctors, I have been contacted by more spouses of Doctors than the actual Doctors themselves. There are a lot of unique life challenges that arise in a Medical Marriages and it is my intent to be the go-to coach that helps the spouses of Doctors address their specific issues and improve their overall quality of life.

I recently had a spouse contact me and asked if I would be open to being interviewed and have my answers posted on her blog in order to share with people how a Life Coach for Doctors can be an invaluable resource for Doctors and their families.

Bea's blog, Finding Equanimity, is about medical marriages and relationships. She writes about ways to find evenness of mind (equanimity) despite the myriad of stresses that a medical marriage can encounter. Bea started her blog because she wanted to chronicle her research on medical relationships and tips that have helped her (and others) along the way. As a result of her research, Bea found my site, and she interviewed me to learn more about life coaches for doctors and the type of advice I give to doctors and their families.

Here's part I of the interview with the answers to the questions that Bea posed to me:


1) What got you interested in becoming a personal coach for doctors?
I was doing Health & Wellness Coaching & specializing in working with people who were dealing with health challenges (especially chronic health conditions and stress-related health issues). Then I met an ER doctor at a business conference who told me that if he ever had any health issues, that I would be the coach he would hire. He also told me that my expertise was extremely needed in the Medical community and that I should consider getting Certified as a Life Coach for Doctors. I went through an intensive Coach Certification Training Program geared towards understanding the Doctor’s lifestyle and the issues that they have to deal with on a regular basis – both personal and business-related. I was trained by a Doctor who had the inside scoop to the Medical Community and the challenges within it. It’s still an untapped resource that many Doctors don’t know exists. Hopefully, with this blog post far more Doctors will take advantage of this professional resource (i.e., Life Coaching) which will help them to avoid burnout and improve their personal relationships with their spouses and families.

2) Why should doctors have personal coaches?
Doctors are human too. They deal with a lot of stress on a daily basis, which impacts their own overall health & well-being. Even though they are in a profession where they are looked at as the one who is supposed to have all the answers, many times, they don’t – especially when it comes to their own life challenges. If more Doctors worked with Life Coaches like me who have been trained to coach Doctors, they would have more balance in their lives, manage the stress more effectively and be an even better physician to their patients than they already are. Their personal lives would also improve because “relationship issues” often come up in the coaching sessions since this area of their life seems to suffer the most as a result of their demanding and hectic schedule. Stress is just a part of a Doctor’s life, but there is a much better way of managing the stress so that it doesn’t have a negative impact on their own overall health and ability to provide the superior service their patients come to expect.


3) What does a typical session with you involve? (For example, do you usually have weekly meetings; do you ever go to their office to meet them or do they come to your office to meet you; what is the typical span of your relationship with a doctor?)


Each month, a typical coaching client has three 45-minute coaching sessions by telephone. It is important that my clients are willing to invest in the coaching process for a minimum of 3-6 months. Some of my clients even hire me for an entire year. Permanent changes happen over time, not over night. If the Doctor wants to see a significant improvement in the quality of their life, then there has to be a commitment on his/her part to invest in the time to do so.

I also make myself available via e-mail and for laser coaching via telephone (brief 5-10 minutes) in between sessions for those moments that my clients need that extra support and guidance, especially when they feel stuck or something “came up” that has thrown them off their path. I want to make sure that all my clients feel fully supported during our coaching relationship and that they know they have a resource that they can tap into when they need it most.

I have a special 12-week Coaching Curriculum that was designed specifically for Doctors to help them improve their overall health & well-being. This curriculum is weaved into our coaching sessions, along with any other area that they want to address. The ultimate goal for any of my clients, Doctors and non-Doctors, is that they want to be happy more often. It’s all about being happy with your life, right?

All my coaching is based on the principles of the Law of Attraction and my clients learn how to shift their thoughts and feelings so that they attract more of what they want into their life and less of what they don’t! Helping doctors manage their stress level more effectively and to improve their personal relationships are two popular concerns that we address during the coaching process. I also have them rank other areas of their life to get a complete snapshot of how they perceive their current state of happiness & wellness.

Stay tuned for Part II of my Interview with Bea (a Doctor's spouse). YOu can find her blog at http://equanimityfound.blogspot.com/

To find out more about my Coaching Services for Doctors & their families, contact me via e-mail at Maria@MariaLesetz.com. You can also visit my website at http://www.lovinlifenow.com/ and my other websites specifically created for Doctors & their families at http://www.invinciblemd.com/ & http://www.lifecoachfordoctors.com/

Have a Lovin' Life day!

Maria C. Lesetz, Certified Life Coach for Doctors