Lesson from a client going through Divorce
This woman that I have been coaching over the past few months just finalized a nasty divorce. Even though she is ready to move on with her life as a 'single, independent' woman again, her ex-husband is not making this easy for her.
Without getting into the details, let's just say 'it's a messy & draining' situation which involves 4 kids and a lot of 'baggage from the past'.
When I was speaking with her the other day, I asked her 'How do you want this situation to play out? What do you want to happen?' At first, she did not directly answer the question. She just went back to all the negative stuff that was happening with her ex-husband. She was re-living all the negative, sticky situations over and over again.
I then gave her an analogy. I said to her ...
What if you were to get in your car, but you didn't know where you were going ...
would you get anywhere???
Then I proceeded to show how the analogy would apply to her life if she just started to visualize the outcome that she would like to see happen and what she would do with her life then.
I also told her to 'be inquisitive' and 'ask lots of questions'! Up till now, she just signs all the legal papers and assumes that her lawyer knows what she is doing and puts her 100% trust in her. However, based on the outcome of many of the situations she is in, her gut keeps on telling her ...
'Something is not right.'
'This lawyer does not have my best interests at heart.'
'I keep on getting the short end of the deal.'
Long story made short ... I saw this woman today. She was bubbling with joy and smiling from ear to ear. She bought a new car today (Certified Used at Hertz), since her old one did not have heat and was falling apart and still had her ex-husband's name on it. She asked lots of questions at the Hertz Sales place. She took herself out to lunch today. She noticed a woman that was very happy and humming a tune while she was getting her salad. She said to the woman 'Wow … I want what you have!'. The woman said 'go ahead… you can have the blue cheese dressing.'
She said 'NO, I mean the fact that you are so happy and singing ... I want that feeling!' (Now, I must tell you that this was out of character for my client ... she usually does not speak to other people). She also called a new lawyer to ask some questions that her current lawyer has still yet to address.
She went to H&R block ... the list goes on. She told me that my words were stuck in her head and that she just had to do something for herself ... the analogy of driving the car and knowing where you are going really worked for her! She was happy today!
So, where are you going? Do you have a clear vision of what you really want in your life? If not, WHY NOT?
Take an active role in your future. Yes, sometimes things do not turn out the way we would like them to, but having a vision that pulls us forward and makes us happy is something that is going to serve us far better than the vision of all that negative stuff that is happening or has happened and we keep on re-living every single day. That only drags us down more. Do yourself a favor and picture yourself in that car and decide where YOU want to go with your life.
Take some baby steps. You could feel elated, just like this woman and experience joy (maybe for the first time in a long time) --- and let me tell you, this woman's face said it all. She was different. She exuded confidence, hope, and happiness! And it was contagious…. Her kids looked happy for her and were more joyous themselves.
Yes, our happiness (or misery) is contagious to those around us. So, what type of attitude do you want to share with others and have them take on?
So, where are you driving your 'car of life' to this week, next month, this year? Think about it. May this story inspire you to take at least one action step that will put a smile on your face, like it did this woman!
For a coaching consultation, contact me at Maria@InvincibleMD.com .
P.S. Here's a GREAT stress relief tool ... CLICK HERE
Want to get yourself back on your feet financially ... check this business opportunity out:
www.RXforPassiveIncome.com
Warmest Regards,
Maria C. Lesetz
Lovin' Life
Certified Life Coach for Doctors
& Motivational Speaker
541-686-1326
www.InvincibleMD.com
www.MariaLesetz.com
www.SeekOptimalWellness.com
www.LostTheWeightAndFeelingGreat.com
Without getting into the details, let's just say 'it's a messy & draining' situation which involves 4 kids and a lot of 'baggage from the past'.
When I was speaking with her the other day, I asked her 'How do you want this situation to play out? What do you want to happen?' At first, she did not directly answer the question. She just went back to all the negative stuff that was happening with her ex-husband. She was re-living all the negative, sticky situations over and over again.
I then gave her an analogy. I said to her ...
What if you were to get in your car, but you didn't know where you were going ...
would you get anywhere???
Then I proceeded to show how the analogy would apply to her life if she just started to visualize the outcome that she would like to see happen and what she would do with her life then.
I also told her to 'be inquisitive' and 'ask lots of questions'! Up till now, she just signs all the legal papers and assumes that her lawyer knows what she is doing and puts her 100% trust in her. However, based on the outcome of many of the situations she is in, her gut keeps on telling her ...
'Something is not right.'
'This lawyer does not have my best interests at heart.'
'I keep on getting the short end of the deal.'
Long story made short ... I saw this woman today. She was bubbling with joy and smiling from ear to ear. She bought a new car today (Certified Used at Hertz), since her old one did not have heat and was falling apart and still had her ex-husband's name on it. She asked lots of questions at the Hertz Sales place. She took herself out to lunch today. She noticed a woman that was very happy and humming a tune while she was getting her salad. She said to the woman 'Wow … I want what you have!'. The woman said 'go ahead… you can have the blue cheese dressing.'
She said 'NO, I mean the fact that you are so happy and singing ... I want that feeling!' (Now, I must tell you that this was out of character for my client ... she usually does not speak to other people). She also called a new lawyer to ask some questions that her current lawyer has still yet to address.
She went to H&R block ... the list goes on. She told me that my words were stuck in her head and that she just had to do something for herself ... the analogy of driving the car and knowing where you are going really worked for her! She was happy today!
So, where are you going? Do you have a clear vision of what you really want in your life? If not, WHY NOT?
Take an active role in your future. Yes, sometimes things do not turn out the way we would like them to, but having a vision that pulls us forward and makes us happy is something that is going to serve us far better than the vision of all that negative stuff that is happening or has happened and we keep on re-living every single day. That only drags us down more. Do yourself a favor and picture yourself in that car and decide where YOU want to go with your life.
Take some baby steps. You could feel elated, just like this woman and experience joy (maybe for the first time in a long time) --- and let me tell you, this woman's face said it all. She was different. She exuded confidence, hope, and happiness! And it was contagious…. Her kids looked happy for her and were more joyous themselves.
Yes, our happiness (or misery) is contagious to those around us. So, what type of attitude do you want to share with others and have them take on?
So, where are you driving your 'car of life' to this week, next month, this year? Think about it. May this story inspire you to take at least one action step that will put a smile on your face, like it did this woman!
For a coaching consultation, contact me at Maria@InvincibleMD.com .
P.S. Here's a GREAT stress relief tool ... CLICK HERE
Want to get yourself back on your feet financially ... check this business opportunity out:
www.RXforPassiveIncome.com
Warmest Regards,
Maria C. Lesetz
Lovin' Life
Certified Life Coach for Doctors
& Motivational Speaker
541-686-1326
www.InvincibleMD.com
www.MariaLesetz.com
www.SeekOptimalWellness.com
www.LostTheWeightAndFeelingGreat.com
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